The Trouble with Love at First Sight

Okay, so I'm jaded. I recognize that, but I am still completely happy with myself, my friends and my relationships. This weekend someone told me he loved me. Actually his exact words were to one of his friends, with me standing by, "I love this girl, I just love her." No joke. This guy, I went out with once on a sort of sympathy date and hung out with a couple of times. There was some mild chemistry but we were from very different backgrounds and he was a little too eccentric for me to take seriously. (coming from me, that's saying something) His friend who he was with at the time of his minor confession, asked me "Don't you believe in love at first sight." To which I replied, "No of course not. And Frankly I find the concept kind of insulting."

I mean think about it, think about the most attractive or striking person you have ever seen or met. Just because you found yourself drawn to them does not mean that you want to, or even should spend the rest of your life with them. Furthermore, thinking that you are in love with someone at first sight, takes away parts of their humanity, it makes them an object to be desired and I do not understand how an object can be loved and love someone equally in return. There is a problem of balance there. I completely believe in electric first meetings and getting along brilliantly with people and wanting to spend more time with them after a few hours of conversation, but that's first meeting, not first sight.

I also, have no problem with Lust at first sight, I mean we all make bad decisions that we secretly love and I am fully in support of that kind of behavior, but we should call it like it is, not like we want it to be.

I guess that the point I am trying to make here, is that we should look for more in ourselves and in love. We should give ourselves a reason to love those that we surround ourselves with and that we should so our best to deserve their love in return.